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Coping with a Disaster or Traumatic Event

Resources for Families

Stress, worry, and fear are common responses during and after a disaster or public health emergency. Pay attention to how you and your family members are feeling. Talking to children about a crisis can be difficult, but it is very important to help them cope. Follow these tips to help yourself and your loved ones cope with an emergency.

Self-Care during an Emergency

	Man sitting alone in front of wreckage from a disaster.

It is normal to feel stress, anxiety, grief, and worry after a disaster.

It is natural to feel stress, anxiety, grief, and worry during and after a disaster. Everyone will react differently and your own feelings will change throughout. Notice and accept how you feel. Taking care of your emotional health during an emergency will help you think clearly and react to the urgent needs to protect yourself and your family during an emergency. Self-care during an emergency will help your long-term healing.

Look out for these common signs of distress:
  • Feelings of shock, numbness, and disbelief
  • Changes in energy and activity levels
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Changes in appetite
  • Sleeping problems
  • Nightmares and upsetting thoughts and images
  • Feeling anxious or fearful
  • Physical reactions, such as headaches, body pains, stomach problems, and skin rashes
  • Chronic health problems can get worse
  • Changes in use of alcohol, tobacco, or other drugs
  • Anger or short-temper

If you experience these feelings or behaviors for several days in a row and are unable to carry out normal responsibilities because of them, seek professional help.

Take the following steps to cope with a disaster:
  • Stay informed-When you feel that you are missing information, you may become more stressed or anxious. Watch the news for updates from officials. Be aware that there may be rumors during a crisis. Turn to reliable sources of information
  • Take care of your body- Eat healthy well-balanced meals, exercise regularly, get plenty of sleep, and avoid drugs and alcohol. Learn more about wellness strategies for mental health.
  • Take breaks- Make time to unwind and remind yourself that strong feelings will fade. Take breaks from listening to news stories. It can be upsetting to hear about the crisis and see images repeatedly. Try to do some other activities you enjoy to return to your normal life and check for updates between breaks.
  • Connect with others- Share your concerns and how you are feeling with a friend or family member. Maintain healthy relationships and build a strong support system.
    	Younger man assisting an elderly man on a walk outside by a garden

    Stay informed, maintain physical health, take breaks, connect with others, and seek help when needed to cope with emergencies.

  • Seek help when needed- If distress is impacting activities of your daily life for several days or weeks, talk to a clergy member, counselor, or doctor or contact the SAMHSA helpline.
    • Call 1-800-985-5990 ; TTY for deaf/hearing impaired: 1-800-846-8517
    • Text TalkWithUs to 66746.

Helping Children Cope

Children and youth may also have a difficult time during or after an emergency. Some young people react right away, while others may show signs of difficulty much later. Take time to talk to your children about the disaster, limit their exposure to media coverage of the event, including social media, and as soon as possible, return to and maintain a healthy routine.

A full guide for parents, caregivers, and teachers can be found at:

	Toddler girl being held by her mother

Children may not say how they are feeling during a crisis. Explain the situation, answer questions, and make sure they feel loved.

Children are less likely to say that they are feeling stressed but will show signs through their behaviors. Infants and young children may cry more than usual, want to be held more, and become fearful about being separated from their parent/caregiver. Adolescents and teenagers may deny that they are upset or may do more risky things.

The following are some ways to help children cope:

  • Set a good example. Take care of yourself, including exercising and eating healthy.
  • Encourage children to ask questions. Get down at eye level and speak in a calm, gentle voice using words they can understand.
  • Make sure they feel connected, cared about, and loved.
  • Listen for any rumors children might hear at school or on social media and help explain the correct information to them.
  • Tell children it is normal to be upset. Let them know that it’s not their fault.

Additional Resources for Families

Distraught man